SEED GROUP TRAINING
How do you feel when you are asked difficult questions?
Questions and objections are often a window into what someone really thinks and feels. They can be a great opportunity to talk about the things that matter to them and point them to Jesus. For this reason it’s important that we spend time thinking about how to answer some of the most common questions and objections about faith. Yet at the same time, we mustn’t feel we have to be able to answer every question before we can say anything.
Often it is the way the Christian responds to questions and objections that makes all the difference. A humble, sensitive and honest response can make a much greater impact than an aggressive response – even if the content is true.
There are many reasons why people ask us difficult questions about our faith.
Here are some examples:
Questions to clarify what their real interest is.
“Why do you ask that question?”
“What difference would it make if you knew an answer to that?”
“Has this issue been a personal one for you?”
Observe their body language and tone of voice for signs they’re feeling uncomfortable, aggressive or defensive. Pray for God’s Spirit to give you wisdom and discernment.
Remember it’s important to respond with humility, honesty and sensitivity.
Our aim is not to win an argument but to help people take a few steps closer to God. We need to be careful not to try so hard to win the argument that we lose the person in the process. God is quite able to defend himself. He doesn’t need us to fight his corner. We should listen carefully to what they’re saying and show them respect, even if we feel their opinions are inconsistent or illfounded. We should try not to become overly defensive or allow our irritation at their questions or objections to come out in the way we speak.
It’s perfectly reasonable (and good for our witness) to be prepared to admit we don’t have an answer for certain questions.
However, if the question is genuine, we should at least offer to try and find an answer for them, and then do the necessary reading/research to discover it, or point them in the direction of a person or book that might give an answer.
Lending them a book that addresses their question and suggesting that they do the reading is a good way to engage them in the process and enables you to ask them what they thought of the book’s answer.
We don’t always know what is going on in people’s lives when they ask us questions. It’s better to stay on the safe side and assume that they may have had a difficult experience related to their question.
Action Point: Choose one of the following questions and research some possible answers.
Reason for God, Tim Keller
More than a Carpenter, Josh McDowell
Turning Stumbling blocks into Stepping Stones, Agape UK
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